Comments on: Why I Don’t Tell People I’m Pregnant Until the Second Trimester https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/ pregnancy, raising kids, and enjoying motherhood one day at a time Mon, 30 Nov 2020 20:12:59 +0000 hourly 1 By: Chelsea Johnson https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-1/#comment-26452 Mon, 30 Nov 2020 20:12:59 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-26452 In reply to Keith.

Thank you so much! These are great words of wisdom!

]]> By: Keith https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-1/#comment-26236 Wed, 25 Nov 2020 06:31:36 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-26236 In reply to Christina.

I am a family doc who has delivered nearly 2000 babies, cared for many families during miscarriage and father of 4 (with 3 miscarriages), and I have one bit of advice.

Think about who you would tell if you do lose a pregnancy. Those who you would need to get through, those who would need to know to help you with your other kids/house/life, whose shoulders you would need to cry on. Go ahead and tell those folks as soon as you want . . . Let them rejoice with you now. It is even harder to say “We are pregnant, but started spotting today.” in one sentence. If this list is 1 or 2 people, fine. If it is more, fine but it helps you decide who to tell, and sets you up to have those you need to weep with you available.

]]> By: Chelsea Johnson https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-5/#comment-22219 Fri, 10 Jul 2020 16:16:46 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-22219 In reply to Jennifer.

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry you had to go through that 13 times! I can’t even imagine! Thank you for sharing your experience!! And good luck!

]]> By: Jennifer https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-5/#comment-22026 Fri, 03 Jul 2020 19:27:54 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-22026 I 100% agree with you….. After 13 miscarriages myself….. Yes I said it 13!!! and dealing with infertility and hormones…. I stopped telling anyone because I didn’t want to hear the “I am so sorry” or the best….

“Well just be thankful you have two healthy boys”

Gee Thanks Karen, I am very thankful but I’d also like my husband who is raising two boys that aren’t his to have one of his own, so while I am thankful and know I am blessed, doesn’t change how hard miscarriages are. (this makes me wanna beat them with a sock full of batteries)

]]> By: Chelsea Johnson https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-5/#comment-18680 Tue, 11 Feb 2020 20:18:54 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-18680 In reply to A. Petersen.

That’s a great rule. I’m so sorry for your losses, and congratulations on your newest pregnancy! I wish you the best of luck! And thanks for sharing!

]]> By: A. Petersen https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-5/#comment-18670 Tue, 11 Feb 2020 03:16:57 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-18670 I truly love and appreciate this post. I’ve had three miscarriages myself, two healthy babies, and I am expecting again. I always lived by not telling anyone until after your first trimester, but I learned with my first miscarriage that it was important for me to have a support system of women to help me through it. That’s why my rule is that I only tell people about my pregnancies that I would feel comfortable talking about a miscarriage with, mostly sister in laws, close girlfriends, and my sweet mother in law who also has experienced pregnancy loss.

]]> By: Chelsea Johnson https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-1/#comment-16546 Tue, 26 Nov 2019 19:42:59 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-16546 In reply to Shelly.

Congratulations, Shelly! Thanks for sharing and good luck with your announcement!

]]> By: Shelly https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-1/#comment-16544 Tue, 26 Nov 2019 07:25:05 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-16544 In reply to Rachel.

Completely agree with this! Your nearest and dearest are the only ones who need to know anything, I couldn’t give a hoot about the ‘friends’ on Facebook – anyone that deserves to know will know from us when the time is right – after the first trimester! We’re telling our parents on Xmas day (I’ll be almost 10 weeks) and keeping it silent is hard, but will be so worth it!! Brilliant advice – let the haters hate xx

]]> By: Chelsea Johnson https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-5/#comment-16473 Tue, 15 Oct 2019 18:43:58 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-16473 In reply to Nettie.

I’m so sorry you went through that. I can’t even imagine how hard that would be to have to repeat it over and over again. Congrats on this pregnancy and I hope everything goes well!

]]> By: Nettie https://www.lifewithmylittles.com/why-i-dont-tell-people-im-pregnant-until-the-second-trimester/comment-page-5/#comment-16463 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 15:25:29 +0000 http://www.lifewithmylittles.com/?p=4709#comment-16463 I 100% agree with this my husband and I have been trying for a while and when we found out we were pregnant we told everyone! Then a few weeks later we found out the pregnancy wasn’t going to work out and we had to tell all the people we told, it was heartbreaking every time someone asked me how the baby was I had to have that conversation over and over again, we didn’t even realize how many people we told until we had to tell them it didn’t work out. So we find out in a few days if we are again and this time well be waiting for that 2nd trimester to tell people!

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