Shayla, I am so, so sorry. I can’t imagine what you’re going through! These are such fabulous, great suggestions. I hope we don’t have to use them, but if we do, they are definitely going to help any mamas struggling with a loss. Thank you for your help.

I had a miscarriage last Monday. We tried for 14 months for our angel and were completely and utterly shocked and entirely devastated to lose our baby at 9 weeks + 6 days. We are blessed to have a 3 year old after 2 years of infertility, but that doesn’t make the loss of our Uri any easier

The things I would add to this list:

Buy her pads – a miscarriage is a complete shock and unfortunately your friend will literally “give birth” to her angel. This means she will have one to two weeks of postpartum cramping and bleeding. Where do stores keep pads? Either in the diaper aisle, or the pregnancy test aisle. Neither of those are good options for a mama that just loss a baby. Send a text asking for size/specifics and grab a pack for her.

Don’t let her baby be forgotten – If she decides to name her angel, use the angel’s name in comments, conversation, cards, etc. Write down the baby’s “Due Date” and be sure to check in on your friend on that day. She will most likely be dealing with a very difficult day and feeling like no one remembers her most precious treasure that is stored in Heaven.

Offer to purchase/make dinner for the family – After a baby is born church’s, friends usually take turns making dinner for the family so that the new mom isn’t burdened with having to cook with a new baby while dealing with postpartum pain/bleeding. Your friend that miscarried is going to be in massive physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental pain…and still be expected to feed her family. Check in and offer a gift card or home cooked meal.

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry! That is so sad. I hope you are able to have another baby soon.

I’m so sorry for your losses. You definitely have the right to be sad! Losing a baby is hard, even when you haven’t met them yet. I love your advice to include the father. I think a lot of times we forget him, but he definitely is grieving after a miscarriage, too.

I am that way, too! When I haven’t experienced something myself I just don’t know what to do for people. It was so helpful to be able to talk to people who have had miscarriages, and it really helped me know what to do to help someone going through one!

Meagan, I am so sorry! I can’t imagine what you are going through. Every miscarriage I hear about just breaks my heart. I’m glad you’ve had people who have helped lift you up in such a hard time. I hope one day you are able to have a baby!!

Thanks, Kersten! I hope that we can share it so that others won’t feel alone.

My mom had one in between my sister and I, and my mother-in-law had one that my husband remembers. They are so hard, and I agree that people need to know they aren’t alone! Babies are still a part of your family even if they are lost, and I can’t imagine having to go through that. Thanks for your comment 🙂